Niches Rule our Lives

The longer I stay here in California it gives me a clearer and clearer view of hawaii, and alot of an idea of whats going on at home in the outlying islands. The way people act are like a weird combination of "American, Asian, and Polynesian" in the way our social environment works. Whats social environment? I believe it is the area you grow up in and the common policies of that place.

I believe each state seems to have its own policies of how respect works, as well as everything else. When you go to different countries nearly everything is nothing that you had learned and is nearly completely different. At least when comparing Asia and America...

When you ask people what their interests are they will tell you different activities.

Indoor- most of these are to entertain your brain with information and to mentally stimulate your brain

Outdoor- most outdoor activities allow you to Explore and Make yourself feel better

What we do tends to be based on what were willing to change and then we always first ask ourselves if it socially acceptable. If people are worried about reputation they tend to automatically not do what is not socially acceptable. Games are one of the things that are socially unacceptable... because a large amount of people believe that they do nothing for your life.
The work as entertainment and a social Ice Breaker... those are all what games do.

But there are different reasons for playing a game...
some people play it to have
"Competition"
"Cooperation"
"Challenge Them self"
"Social acceptance"
"Entertainment"
"To be apart of something"

whats difficult in any social situation is that you have to figure out which one of these the other person believes in and try to stick within those boundaries. Well, no one has to do anything but sometimes it causes discomfort if you are trying to get to know someone by talking about how great it is that the players are together playing one game when you are talking to someone who told you they care about the competition aspect... which would make them only care about winning and less about what social connections they are making.

The world is made up of Niches, it is really weird but unless its called a Niche the description doesnt really hit you. When someone says hobby or activity they like to do... all you would really think is oh its something you like to do, but if they said thats my niche... you really understand what they mean is... thats the boundaries I have set for things I like to do... which builds a small amount of things you can do together... the sad part is that if you try to introduce them into something you like... unless you are really best buddies they will not even dare look in that direction... and then you even have to take time to think if its something they might even have the slightest interest in doing? for example if someone loves all outdoor things if you are suggesting a indoor activity it might not go so well.

With the niches everyone chooses their world becomes smaller and smaller and even when we get better at those niches and stay in them longer the world gets even more smaller... we have only so much time on earth and the amount of niches is huge... we have to pick and choose what we place our time into and try to think of the best way to do it or else we will stay in the same place...

socially a niche will break the ice but you will never REALLY get to know the person unless you meet outside of the niche. Just like every other activity you do with people...

sometimes though i feel a bit sad that Niches will limit your social activitiy, and if you wish to meet more people you must expand your niches... and if that doesnt happen your personality better be top notch for them to not get bored with it... and thats a whole nother world of problems having a good personality...

Good Personality+Niche+Survival+loyalty= best friend?

maybe... sometimes even I wonder if there are things that should be called best friend? maybe most compatible friend might be most accurate : / ill write a bit more on that next time. Thanks for readin.